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POLYAMORY VS MONOGAMY
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Justin Smith

Mr. Justin B. Smith has been involved in Gay Activism since 1999. He is 28 and a U.S. Air Force Veteran. Justin was born and raised in Silver Spring, Maryland. He now lives in Baltimore, Maryland and has worked with and for Gay Organizations such as the National Black Justice Coalition, Human Rights Campaign, Equality Maryland, Us Helping Us, People Into Living Incorporated etc. He is currently in school pursuing his degree in Communication and Journalism.

 

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By Justin Smith
Published on 11/8/2007
 

Polyamory (from Greek πολυ (poly, literally “multiple”) and Latin amor (literally “love”) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

 

This is a confession and advice from the author Justin B Smith, I’m a black gay man who just happens to be in a relationship with three sexually identified gay men.  Even though I will be 28 years old in December these three men playfully and lovingly call me baby boy.  There is another twist to our fearless foursome; we are all apart of the Leather Community.  All three men are in their 40’s and love me very much as I do them.  The first man is called SIR no more and definitely not any less.  In the Leather Community he is called a Leather Sir/Daddy.  The other two are leather boys (my leather brothers), just like me.  We live to serve our SIR, in whatever he needs.  We go on family trips together and take care of each other through emotional, physical, spiritually and mentally.


POLYAMORY VS MONOGAMY

Polyamory (from Greek πολυ (poly, literally “multiple”) and Latin amor (literally “love”) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

 

This is a confession and advice from the author Justin B Smith, I’m a black gay man who just happens to be in a relationship with three sexually identified gay men.  Even though I will be 28 years old in December these three men playfully and lovingly call me baby boy.  There is another twist to our fearless foursome; we are all apart of the Leather Community.  All three men are in their 40’s and love me very much as I do them.  The first man is called SIR no more and definitely not any less.  In the Leather Community he is called a Leather Sir/Daddy.  The other two are leather boys (my leather brothers), just like me.  We live to serve our SIR, in whatever he needs.  We go on family trips together and take care of each other through emotional, physical, spiritually and mentally. 

 

Before I met my three lovers I was involved in a deep monogamous relationship.  I was in love but some was lacking in the relationship.  I wanted more of a variety.  I then began to seek out more at bars and clubs and had a love affair.  I then took my (monogamous) partner to a local Leather bar in Washington DC and my prospective on my lifestyle changed at that moment.  I know what I wanted and it wasn’t him.  My heart skipped a beat when these three found me.  All of us live in Maryland and are happy with our lives and live everyday to the fullest.  We are called a family and I’m in love them all.

 

I have friends that call me with love advice all the time.  My friends call and are always having an issue with their lover cheating, lying, receiving no emotional support etc.  I sit and think to myself, if I can take care of three men why can’t most gay men do that same?  Or at least understand that there is nothing wrong with the way I live my life.  It’s open and honest, which I’ve been with all three of my partners.  Communication is a very important key to any polyamorous relationship.  It can make or break it. 

 

I’ve also gotten back lash from the gay community as well because of my lifestyle.  People say that this is an excuse to cheat.  Well how is it cheating when we all love each and know that there are multiple people in this relationship?  People judge me a call me freak and I own it. 

 

Any questions?  Please let me know!