I am well aware of the need for sex and the need for affection. I am also aware that the internet has made it easier for men of same sex desires to meet, greet, and enjoy each other sexually indiscriminately. The internet has also made it easier for predators of all kinds to meet and harm our community members as well. We are dealing with a dilemma of attacks and death. Sex should not be more important than your life. So I have decided to write series of best practices in a myriad of sexual venues that our community may choose to participate in.

Internet Hook-Ups are very easy to have. When people are in a state of lust, particularly men, they think with their privates and not their brains. The following are just a few ideas on what we should consider when participating in an online hook-up.

1. Make sure that you see the person's face. I am clear that there are sexy men online that are in the closet. I am also clear that people have fake pictures that they can send; however, getting a written descript and a pic that you can save to your PC and print. Will be something you can look at when meeting with unknown people for hook-ups. If the person looks nothing like your pic it is wiser to skip the date and move on.

2. Meet your date in a public place. Many people think that if that meet someone in their own space it will be safer, but I think we have seen in incidences in Chicago and New Jersey that this is not so. Meeting someone in a public place and checking their demeanor is very important. This is your first meeting and having a safe environment to be able to leave if you feel uncomfortable is imperative.

3. Go with your first impression and follow your instincts. If you are having an uneasy feeling or receiving a negative vibe then you should follow those feelings. They are your body's way of alerting you spiritually to danger. Once you ignore those feelings you may be heading into trouble.

4. Alert a friend to your date. Many people want to keep their sexual rendezvous to themselves, but in this day and age we need to depend on one another. If you do not have a person you can trust then please write down the persons name and number on a piece of paper and tape it to a desk with your date time. This is do that you can be located if anything were to happen.

5. Make sure that your cell is completely charged. This is a safety precaution. Leave your cells on vibrate and place inside your pocket where people cannot see. This is so you can contact someone in case of emergency; Place your phone on one touch dialing so that you can reach your confident or the police easily.

6. If you are to go to someone's home take note of the layout of and people present in the space. Look around the space. No where the front door is. Look at the locks. Allow your host to go in first. Stay in the front area until lights are on and you can see where you are going. Never enter a place that is too dark to see where you are going or who else might also be in the space.

7. Take you own sexual necessities. Do not depend on others to supple safer sex materials. You are your own health agent. You must go prepared. This doesn't matter what role you may take in the bedroom.
   
   

I am hoping these things will help us be more aware of what we need to do to remain as safe as we possibly can. I want each person to be safe with his or her sexual decisions or outlets. I wish you guys a healthy sex life.