So in the news, we are hearing about the pressure Obama getting for gay equality and rights. And if you go over to Queerty, you get the daily (sometimes twice a day) hate-o-drama about Obama’s lack of support.


 

However, I’m not going to bash him; there’s no need. Unlike some, I think he’s doing a great job trying to balance out the mess from the not-so-messy-but-dusty matters in our country. I understand that changing DADT is not going to happen soon. I understand that he must have allies on both sides to make his argument strong and effective. Without that support, it can be an uphill battle. Plus, he has put some big initiatives forward. Those initiatives (the budget, the war(s), policy changes and etc.) have to be successful. If they are, more folks will come to his side and if not, they will somewhat distance themselves from him. Obama needs the superpower to make things happen. If his main issues fail, it will be hard for him to push gay rights through the loop. Also, we have to remember that everybody ain’t feeling the gay love, so Obama needs that support to make it happen. Something else we need to keep in mind is the game of politics. Politics are no joke; this is not a game of UNO. Now, to some of our family members, politics is who gets into the VIP spot. Naw honey, it’s bigger than that, much bigger. Politics is a dirt bottom fight; it’s a Beatrix Kiddo vs Vernita Green type of fight. Obama has to wheel and deal in order get certain ideas through Congress. You see how difficult it is to get budget stuff passed, and that’s without the Repubs’ vote. Then add in the fact not all Dems are gay supporters. Basically it’s going to take some time.

Instead of acting like Veruca Salt about this, we should be thankful that our president cares about us. Instead of complaining that he’s silent about the marriage equality victories, be glad he isn’t trying to create some busted amendment to ban gay marriage.

Be happy that he will try to change DADT, be happy that he has appointed gay members in fantastic positions and at least he recognizes gay families. Neither Bush nor Clinton did that much for us. I’m tired of hearing that "Obama has betrayed Gay folks" or "Obama's lied to us". When did folks become so myopic? To be real, the same argument could come from any person of color or gender. In all, I want the hateration to cease. It’s getting us nowhere and it’s causing a divide within our community. President Obama is not Kal-El, but he’s doing the best he can with what he has in front of him. I have faith in him and I know he will come through. It will take some time, but it will happen. Could we say that a few years ago? Hell no! So we need to rally around our President, call him out, but be understanding, patient and realistic. He got enough haters attacking him, let’s not be in that same crowd.