BEST SEXUAL PRACTICES SERIES

I am well aware of the need for sex and the need for affection. I am also aware that the internet has made it easier for men of same sex desires to meet, greet, and enjoy each other sexually indiscriminately. The internet has also made it easier for predators of all kinds to meet and harm our community members as well.

We are dealing with a dilemma of attacks and death. Sex should not be more important than your life. So I have decided to write series of best practices in a myriad of sexual venues that our community may choose to participate in.

Internet Hook-Ups are very easy to have. When people are in a state of lust, particularly men, they think with their privates and not their brains. The following are just a few ideas on what we should consider when participating in an online hook-up.

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This series is something that men that identify as bottom or versatile need to pay close attention to. It is also a subject that top men need to be very aware of. The proper awareness and healthy anal decision making in our community is something that touches off more discussions than just physical health or cleanliness. It also touches on a deep discussion of internalized sexual phobia, and internalized homophobia that we rarely talk about. It plays into fantasy and the body as a model for that fantasy, and the reality of what we are doing physically in our bedrooms. This topic brings up more issues than just wanting to keep the “stick” clean; it is about myths and facts that in many cases are worlds apart. In this series I hope to address the digestive system, myths, taboos, and other important social issues around anal heath.

THE CIRCLE OF THE ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL PERCEPTIONS OF THE BLACK GAY/SGL/SSD MAN

J. Marshall Evans CHSS, ACS, ASSECT

Black men of same-sex desires have moved into an infatuation with muscles, hyper-masculinity, and “pretty boy looks’ that has created a level of second-class citizenship within the community.

This behavior is something that has arisen from the depths of prejudice that is fueled by ego and media’s unrealistic, hip-hop, ‘Top model”, egocentric perceptions.

These perceptions have stunted us in developing friendships and created a cycle of doubt around the possibilities of meeting other black men to truly date and have healthy long-term, caring, intimate relationships.

Technology, Love, Sex, and Men of Same-Sex Desires: The Juncture of Progressive Confusion By J. Marshall Evans, CPT, ACS, ASSECT I believe that we in our society have truly lost a lot of things as we have “progressed’. Technology has been great in making life more efficient, but it has also left us becoming more and more detached from each other. We now reside within our own little worlds of Ipods and MP3 players. We ride in our automobiles segregated from true physical and social interactions on the way to and coming from our places of employment just to come home to automatic meals for the kids, and singular focuses for entertainment (i.e.…computers, televisions, DVD players, playstations, etc…).

Safe, Sane, and Misunderstood: Black Men and the Leather, BDSM, and Fetish Community

Black men are known for being passionate and sexual. The mystique of the black man’s sexual prowess reaches far and wide creating myth and fact that continues to be debated. Similarly, black men have also carried the label of being old-fashion when compared to their white male counterparts when it comes to sexual exploration. However, a new day is dawning for this populace as they embark on owning and exploring the complete realm of sexuality. This realm includes the Leather, Bondage Domination Sadomasochism (BDSM), and Fetish community. Black men in increasing numbers are accepting their sexual preferences, fighting against universal prejudices, creating new resources for themselves, and ushering a new day in terms of how they please themselves and their sexual cohorts.