Yep, I knew it. This is a tabloid book of sorts. Just a bio with true or false experiences with DL men. Now, I knew it would be something like this. As a writer, I would want to get my book published too. However, I would not sell out others for my claim to stardom. This book was marketed to out the stars in Hip Hop and movie fame. Terrance Dean was suppose to...well, I don't know what he was planning to do with this book. What are his intentions? Does he think he's helping anyone?

Noah’s Arc gave gay black men a face, a voice, and a story…maybe not the best story, but a story. Still, there were options.

In college, my friends and I were in the middle. Several of them were art majors, political science majors, club presidents, play writers, and student leaders.

We didn’t fall into a specific category, nor follow traditional black male roles. We stood out and challenged the norm.

And that’s what I would like our brothers to do. Defy the stereotypical gay roles we’ve been placed in and look for something new.

• The NO campaign (in LA) preached to the choir, throwing events in WeHo, having mostly gay galas, advertising in gay areas or popular non-gay areas. We should've been in our embattled areas. We needed to win folks over, I thought.

• We should have presented a more diverse LGBT community. Believe it or not, some folks still think of the gay community as a white-only club. We still need to defeat this issue within the LGBT family.

• Look at our priorities. This is tricky because we should be free to be you and me. But we need to ask ourselves so tough questions. Like...Do we need to be sexual in very gay ad? Do we need to over-hype Folsom Street? Are we truly a community or a community of convenience? Are we diverse enough within our community? Are we promoting the party, sex, drugs image? These are questions similar to the ones most minorities ask themselves as well. I think it's time to critically process what we are actually doing as a community and a people.

• Did we talk to our opponents, not shout, but talk with them about who we are? I know that's far-fetched, but who knows.

• Did we reach out to other people besides our famous allies?

• Did we take our liberal freedoms for granted?

We should be aware that some of this is our fault. And once we do, we could get it together and come back stronger. We lost a battle but not war. Next time we have to dot the i's and cross the t's. If we make the same mistakes again, it's over. And we will have no one to blame but ourselves.

Her husband and his anti-American group, her daughter becoming a baby's mama, troopergate, Bridge to Nowhere, lack of knowledge, 6 figure wardrobe, and silly ass statements. Hell, for a second I thought I was watching Erica Kane instead of Moose Mess.

We should remember our struggle and hope that we would have such freedoms. If they truly believed in God, then they would have not voted for this. Denying folks from their happiness is not Christian. Out of all people, Black people should've known better. I hope we can have a real discussion about this in our community. We need to get down to the heart of the issue. Yes on Prop 8 is a setback, and the support from Black folks cuts ultra deep.